Tuesday, November 6, 2007

World changing decisions


I am so excited to start decorating for Christmas this year. I'm not usually a big decorator for holidays because first, if you put it up you have to take it down (LAZY!) and second, if you buy it you have to store it (LAZIER!). Maybe it is just the thought of sharing Christmas with Matthew that makes it exciting this year.

I started thinking about Christmas stockings. Scott & I need new stockings so I thought that I would get the 3 of us similar ones...but then I began wondering "What about any future kids we have? What if I can't find the same style by the time they are with us? Then they might feel bad and always sing "One of these things is not like the other." So I consulted with my BBFF (Best Blog Friend Forever) Rebecca (http://www.untilwemeetintaiwan.blogspot.com) because she has a whole tribe and always knows how to handle important decisions.

Anyway, our conversation evntually led to how, in a year when you are adopting, you can expect to have a "pauper's Christmas" due to the adoption costs. That is when I decided that, instead of typical Christmas stockings, we would simply hang 3 of Matthew's socks on the mantel...and you only get what the sock can hold! This seems to be the wisest budgetary decision; if we have additional children it will be easy to get more socks like them...and, besides, his socks are cute!

Our Thanks-for-the-Day
Seeing how much your husband loves your son.

Monday, November 5, 2007

Travel info for adoptive parents

After reading Tiffany's comment on my last post, checking out her website, and realizing that she will be united with her sweet Sophia on November 19, I thought I would post some info from our travel experience. This is from a post I made to our yahoo JOH group, so I have deleted any agency-specific information.

Just wanted to share some info about our trip in hopes that it will help out someone who will travel in the future.Todd the Travel Agent - using him helped us because it was busy season and flights were full, not sure that he saved us any money though ($1700+ each). He was able to get us good seats and a bassinet, which we might not have done on our own. Only disappointment was that we suggested the Evergreen Laurel hotel but he put us in CaesarPark. He said it was closer to AIT but that really didn't matter....and I had told him we wanted a hotel with free businesscenter/computer usage...I don't think he really checked into this as the center at Caesar Park was definitely not free!

EVA Airlines - definitely recommend, upgrade to Evergreen Deluxe.If you fly the direct to Taipei and leave at 1:00am, keep in mind that they will serve you dinner very early in the morning...so ifthe thought of something like spicy pork and rice for "breakfast"doesn't sound good, pack some snacks in your carry on! Also rememberthat if you leave the US around 1:00am on the direct flight, you endup arriving in taipei at 5:00 in the morning...so check with yourhotel to seeif you can have early check in.

Caesar Park - Staff was absolutely fabulous, but our room was so worn & outdated (stains on carpet and furniture, no outlets in bathroom, etc). They really did not have any amenities as I have heard other hotels have, such as extra bottles of water, freecomputer usage, free breakfast buffet, hot water spicket, etc. And the bad thing about paying for the computer was that the internet connection was dreadfully slow! They did give us a newspaper everyday, so I kept the one from the day we got Matthew.

Packing - Pack light! We took one big suitcase, one small suitcase,and 2 small carry-ons bags and had more than enough stuff. If your child is in foster care, you may also have a duffel bag from the agency with all of your baby's foster care items. You don't need to dress up much for the appts to get your baby and with AIT. The agency reps actually wore jeans...and at the AIT you don't sit downface-to-face and have a meeting or interview, so don't feel the needto go overboard in packing clothes. I was glad that I packed a fewtrash bags because our hotel room trash cans were really small. I packed disposable everything (bibs, changing pads, washcloths) which was great because then we didn't have to haul around wet/dirty items. I took 1 package of diapers (35 diapers) and it lasted usthe whole trip. Take a small thermos for hot water for bottles...great when sightseeing, atthe airport, or midnight feedings in the hotel.

Picking up baby - If you get an info sheet about your baby (diet, sleep schedule, etc) be sure to s to look this over and ask questions when you get to the foster home/agency. We looked at it and thought "Wow, this is great info!" but after we got back to the hotel with him, we realized we had questions about the info that was listed (i.e....so was the nap mentioned on the paper the ONLY nap he takes every day? Do they still burp him in the middle of his bottle?etc).

In Taiwan we bought 3 cans of formula and one of cereal to use both in Taiwan and at home. Matthew used 7 scoops of formula & 2 1/2 or cereal perbottle, so one can of formula lasted us from the time we picked him u until after we came back home. We also bought a tall formula powder container so that we could fill up the 4 sections with pre-made bottles for the trip home. I suggest buying 2 of these...or,like we did, fill one....and then fill some individual bottles, too,so you don't have to carry-on the big formula and rice cans.

Arriving in the US - To go through immigration, make sure you have all paperwork your agency gives you, as well as a "blue form" that your airline should give you. I think it is actually a white form with a blue line across the top. EVA gave us 3 forms, none of whichwere the correct one. IF YOU GO THROUGH LAX, you will go to line#17...tell someone there that Mendoza said that adoptions are expedited. We waited in a long line (even telling 3 different officers that we were adopting) and when we got to the last guy(Mendoza) he said "Adoptions are supposed to be expedited. Why didn't you come to the front of the line?" Go figure. When you get your baggage, don't forget about the duffel bag from the agency!

Update, eggnog, and other randomness

Here Matthew is calling his dad to rat his mama out for not
carrying him around all day.


Our "wave your hands in the air like you just don't care" program has worked wonderfully as now Matthew seems to be raising his arms a lot more...even waving bye-bye. He especially likes to lift his arms when he is trying to get you to to do one of the following: 1. if you are holding him while sitting and he wants you to stand or 2. if you are holding him while standing and he wants you to start walking. He does not like to stay still at all, and sometimes I wonder if his busyness has anything to do with his inability to sleep during the night. I know his busyness has a lot to do with my inability to sleep at night!


I think I found the problem behind his smelly room....let's just say we've moved up to JUMBO diapers. JUMBO?! Yes, it says "jumbo" right on the package! That sounds so harsh....kind of like the HUSKY description in kids' clothing. I think SUPERSIZED sounds much better....gives it a positive spin! And who doesn't want to be described with the word "super"??? Unless I guess someone called you SUPER ANNOYING, or SUPER LAME, or SUPER BAD DRESSER...


Egg Nog is back for the holidays!!!!!!!!! So yesterday in one aisle at Target there was egg nog....and in a nearby aisle was all the Halloween candy 50% off!!! (That was my Thanks-for-the-Day yesterday, but I didn't have time to post). It's great when the retail industry celebrates all the holidays at once so that you feel like you are celebrating non-stop from October to January! It's a big fiesta for a quarter of the year!



Our Thanks-for-the-Day
Gift cards! Isn't it great to get gift cards out of the blue? We received 2 last week. Whenever I'm shopping with a gift card, I feel like I'm really rich...and I'll say things like "Girl, go ahead and buy the Bounty papertowels instead of the generic ones because you've got free money!!"

Saturday, November 3, 2007

Operation Christmas Child

Operation Christmas Child is a program that we support--in addition to local Christmas programs--that shares Christmas love to children around the world. You get a shoebox (which is a good reason to get that new pair of winter boots you've had your eye on), pack it with all kinds of goodies and gifts, and then it is distributed to a child in need. Some people even put a photo of their family in the shoebox, and I read a story of how one couple ended up adopting the child who received their box. To find out more or get involved: http://www.samaritanspurse.org/OCC.asp?MPGID=1

Our Thanks-for-the-Day:
Hooray for the Target $1 section which allows us to stuff MORE shoeboxes with MORE gifts!!!!

You can take the mama out of the nightshift...




but you can't take the nightshift out of the mama. Matthew has had almost a full week of rough nights in a row, so my dear husband took the nightshift for me last night. I'm sure I was sleeping away just fine when BING my eyes flew open at 3:19am! I strained to listen for any noises...I contemplated turning on the monitor to hear...but there I was wide awake on my night off. I took the time to pray for single moms who never get a night off...that God would give them an extra dose of patience and strength. And then I laid there some more...by the time 5:00am rolled around I was getting panicky...singing "time keeps on slippin', slippin', slippin' into the future...as I realized my night o' sleep was quickly fading away. But then I must have drifted off shortly after that....having one dream that I was helping Pierce Brosnan fix a water problem in China by finding the source of the problem in a well in Burma (they were low on sand)...and a dream where I was telling other people dreams I had about them (I guess that is a double dreamy dream). Anyway...I woke up this morning pretty refreshed...and Scott said that Matthew's night wasn't too bad! Hopefully we're moving in a positive direction!

Friday, November 2, 2007

Happy Friday

Our Thanks-for-the-Day
After a baby is up in the night from 2:22 - 4:50am, again at 5:45am, again at 7:00am, and again at 7:45am, a mama can be thankful that only two sets of trick-or-treaters came to the house leaving a whole bag of candy for breakfast! And lunch.

Thursday, November 1, 2007

Happy Month of Thanksgiving

In the above photo, Matthew ushers in the month of Thanksgiving by doing an impersonation of a little Pilgrim girl. However, the look on his face is more Hester Prynne shame than Pilgrim girl gratitude!



Not only is November the month of giving thanks, but it is also National Adoption Awareness Month. Perhaps you have never considered adoption...you may think, "I've already raised my kids" or "I'm too old" or "It's too expensive" or a myriad of other reasons why adoption is not an option for your family. Well, I encourage you that, as you are giving thanks this month for all of the blessings in your life, you also contemplate the blessings of opening your hearts and homes to an orphaned or abandoned child. I can share many stories of families whose homes were already crowded, whose lives were already "seasoned", and whose bank accounts were already drained, but who answered the call to sacrifice for a little one...and they are blessed beyond measure.

If you do not feel led to adopt, you can still support orphaned children through prayer and/or financial support. There are many organizations that champion for the rights of the fatherless. If you need direction, please let me know!


OUR THANKS-FOR-THE-DAY:
Today Matthew & I went to the park and met there a 15 month old boy and his young mother who is still in high school. When I told her that Matthew has only been with us a short time, she was very sweet and quickly began sharing her "mama wisdom" with me. So today we are thankful for the common bond of motherhood.
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