tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post5468628636006860474..comments2023-06-08T08:38:11.261-06:00Comments on 1st Time Mama: Touche'Tishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05025104225794869065noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post-53376504955805763412008-04-03T21:31:00.000-06:002008-04-03T21:31:00.000-06:00Tish, I feel 100% the same way *all the time*, whi...Tish, I feel 100% the same way *all the time*, which is why I enjoy being a working mom, because it gives me a little bit of guilt-free time... that is, unless I'm feeling guilty about my patients or co-workers! =) Ah, the life of a perfectionist - what can you do?<BR/><BR/>Btw, it was a nice day, so I brought Andy out for a walk today - I felt guilty because I wasn't sure he enjoyed it, and I did it more because *I* wanted to get out. Then I felt guilty because I realized I was pondering this while I *should* have been talking to him! =)jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14209956955715823620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post-78971983387495843292008-04-02T04:55:00.000-06:002008-04-02T04:55:00.000-06:00I read a magazine article when my son was a baby t...I read a magazine article when my son was a baby that was specifically written to help us let go of the guilt of taking our kids on errands with us. It pointed out all of the various things kids can learn while out and about: new vocabulary, a chance to observe the ins and outs of social interaction, new sights, sounds, and other sensory practice, and learning patience. All good things. So, no, it may not be FUN, but think of your errands as a learning experience for Matthew- a very valuable part of his day.<BR/><BR/>And, as for a walk, it is ok to not be the one interacting and providing stimulation for your child every moment. A nice walk in the stroller allows Matthew time for quiet enjoyment of God's creation and just peaceful moments to himself- also good for development. Plus, there is STILL the opportunity for many of the above stated learning! <BR/><BR/>So, let yourself off the hook! You know you're a good mom when you care enough to reflect on your day, recognize what you wish was different, and adjust for tomorrow. So, you're doing a GREAT job! <BR/><BR/>Jenna :)Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12327872107826129535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post-85614444510718045282008-04-01T12:25:00.000-06:002008-04-01T12:25:00.000-06:00Too funny...I agree with Sherry, that you are a co...Too funny...I agree with Sherry, that you are a cool mamma bringing in dirt into your house to let Matthew play or to let him feed himself knowing all the food will end up on him. Cool mamma!! KristieJust Ushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06262939339024746836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post-27129913288271165572008-03-31T21:38:00.000-06:002008-03-31T21:38:00.000-06:00Girl you think to much... LOL! I think your an awe...Girl you think to much... LOL! I think your an awesome mama! Sometimes those husband people never have the right responses but hey you got us in "blogland". Hahaha! I understand what your saying:) So trust me any mama that brings dirt into the house just so baby can play in it b/c there's creepy construction guys outside is a very cool mom! Umm... didn't you do that once?? LOL! LOL!Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03800487010784927774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post-5821650195135796822008-03-31T21:12:00.000-06:002008-03-31T21:12:00.000-06:00I totally agree with Andrea...I have that guilt al...I totally agree with Andrea...I have that guilt all of the time. The worst is when my kids beg for me not to work in the morning and I don't even work that much while they are awake...ughgggh..<BR/><BR/>I totally feel ya on this post!!<BR/><BR/>You rock, just know that. I know you are a great mom!Yvonne Crawfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12855678439078449037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post-76662655578706686252008-03-31T17:43:00.000-06:002008-03-31T17:43:00.000-06:00My Dear Sweet Tish- I am soon to be a "6th Time Ma...My Dear Sweet Tish- I am soon to be a "6th Time Mama", and it never gets any easier.<BR/>You ALWAYS feel like maybe you could do things just a little bit better. But God knew that you would be the best Mama for YOUR children. That's why he gives them to YOU.<BR/><BR/>And your husband is a Cutey-Pattooty for even trying to help. Its the effort that counts! :)<BR/><BR/>xoxo,<BR/>AAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08847425374212175113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post-65027321699464075472008-03-31T17:07:00.000-06:002008-03-31T17:07:00.000-06:00I love that!!!! Your hubbs is soo soo funny. I ...I love that!!!! Your hubbs is soo soo funny. I have no advice, as I'm sure I'll feel the same wayAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11159769159285590859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5148039363496292683.post-85782111591921968262008-03-31T14:34:00.000-06:002008-03-31T14:34:00.000-06:00Too funny!! I have had those types of conversatio...Too funny!! I have had those types of conversations with Andy before... I don't think husbands quite 'get' what we're saying (they're dudes, after all), but they try. :)<BR/><BR/>I think the guilt feelings are normal. You'll work through those as you continue your mama-journey. Here's what I've learned on mine:<BR/><BR/>- There is no such thing as a perfect mom.<BR/><BR/>- I love my kids in spite of their mistakes... they love me in spite of my mistakes. <BR/><BR/>- It's good for kids to learn that they are not the center of the universe. <BR/><BR/>- Life lessons are best learned early. You know, the ones like: sometimes you have to wait for your food. Sometimes you have to sit through something that isn't necessarily fun. Sometimes you can't have Mom's full attention. Etc, etc. <BR/><BR/>I hope this doesn't make me sound like a bad mama. :) <BR/><BR/>For what it's worth, I think you are doing a FABULOUS job with Matthew!!! What our children need most of all is to know they are loved. I have no doubt that Matthew knows his mama loves him very much.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>RebeccaRebecca Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05963057412380331638noreply@blogger.com